Coming in threes…….

Coming in threes…….

A different spin on the concept of things coming in threes.

On things coming in threes…….

How many times have you heard the expression, “bad things or things come in threes”. We equate this concept when two, not so pleasing events happen in our lives to almost prepare ourselves for another not so pleasing event to occur. Or when, without even a moment to think about it, three things have occurred in succession, and we use the “in threes theory” as a way to comfort ourselves, “well that’s three! There won’t be any more of that for a while.”

September to December 2011 was a difficult time for me. My sister Debbie passed away in September, I lost my job in October and then (and I know you’re all waiting for the third), in December, my good friend Bill died suddenly in his sleep. As many can imagine, by the time the third event happened, I felt like I had gone through one of those wood chippers with my emotions being spewed out of a chute.

I’m not here to talk about the woes of my past, but really to shed some insight on the idea of things coming in threes.

What if you found out that it isn’t out of the ordinary at all, and in fact it’s the core of how the universe is designed to function?

Some scientists describe the universe — and therefore life — as entropic in nature. A big fancy word but it is actually a very interesting concept.

Entropy is the idea that things are breaking up or falling apart. The concept was coined by a German physicist to describe the measure of the disorder in a particular system. Another definition states Entropy is lack of order or predictability; gradual decline into disorder.

What’s even more interesting is that the origin of the word Entropy is Greek; “entropia”, which invites us to turn toward something.

So in a sense, when we look at entropy it is both disorder and turning towards that which is falling apart. We are invited into what, at times, is a very perplexing and potentially frustrating process of living.

The universe began out of a focal point and then expanded outwards. Theories state it fell apart out of concentrated density into diverse manifestations; galaxies, stars, and planets. It’s a bit of a paradox, because although these structures were put together and created, they resulted out of a process of devolution.

This is the odd gift of how life functions. Think of food in your digestive tract: it’s a solid mass which is broken down through a complicated process to create energy, build immunity, build new cells, and energize various body systems.

The body is mimicking exactly how the universe functions, and in the cosmos everything is in entropy.

Have you heard about the life of the Eagle? The Eagle has the longest lifespan of its species. It can live up to the age of 70, however, to reach an old age, the eagle must make a very difficult decision. At the age of 40 the Eagle’s long, flexible talons can no longer grab prey. Its beak becomes bent. Its wings become heavy due to sick feathers that stick to his chest, making flying difficult. The eagle is left with only two options; die or go through a painful process of change. The process of change lasts for five months. The eagle must fly to a mountaintop and sit on its nest. Once on the mountain top, the eagle knocks its beak against a rock until it can pluck it off. The eagle waits for a new beak to grow back, after which it will pluck out its talons. When the eagle’s talons grow back, it starts plucking its old aged feathers. At the end of the 5 months, renewed and refreshed, the eagle takes its famous flight of rebirth and lives for 30 more years.

Life is designed to unravel, to spin out control, to make it hard to keep things together. But why? Are you ready for the good news? When things fall apart, there is a potential to generate new order, a gateway and an opportunity to do something different. To engage, to leave it alone, to clean it up or to rearrange. You get to choose how you step into participation with the ebb and flow of living.

Entropy reminds you that in a world where things are designed to unravel, it takes effort to keep things together, and believe it or not, that is something to cherish.

A quote by Deepak Chopra reads; “Every great change is preceded by chaos.”

Your life falls apart every so often. Isn’t that great?

Instead of resisting it when it happens — whether in small ways or bigger instances — step into the process. Like the eagle. Embrace it for what it is, and know that it will eventually pass. Take the opportunity to build something new in your life. For me, I have found that when I am bombarded with Entropic events whether in threes, fours, or twos I have always searched for a deeper meanings or connections. I look for the gifts, I try to be mindful that chaos will occur, and that somewhere, somehow everything will be ok. I know that in the long run, when the dust finally settles, the seemingly chaotic time will hold within it, many blessings.

Many things will emerge renewed and on some level even better. I am not saying that when mass chaos filled with turmoil physically, emotionally or mentally hits, we should be jumping for joy and saying “Oh this is going to be good for me.” It just may help to know that chaos prevails, without control. The only thing we can do is release the apparent control we think we have, turn toward the chaos and turn inwards.