Grief Recovery Method

Grief Recovery Method

New thoughts on the meaning of grief and how we deal with it.

Grief Recovery Method
New thoughts on the meaning of grief and how we deal with it.

Traditions are wonderful customs that give us a context as to what to do and what to say, but what happens when those traditions no longer serve us?

Grief Recovery Method

Our traditions surrounding grief provide us with context as to how to react so we don’t have to make a decision at every turn. Some of our expectations are from years of examples set by others.

It’s good to have traditions and it’s good to be able to examine them to see if they are fulfilling needs.

In recent years families have begun to create new traditions: New traditions that may reflect their unique needs and values. We see celebrations of life and memorial services and each individual can decide what those look like. These choices may more closely reflect the needs of each family.

We may look to examine our definition of grief and also our traditions surrounding the grieving process. As adults, we can examine our traditions and accept the best and replace the ineffective.

In the following interview Tammy Adams and I examine what we have been taught traditionally and the Grief Recovery Method that Tammy facilitates.

The opening chapter of the Grief Recovery Handbook says, "Grief is the normal and natural reaction to loss of any kind. Therefore, the feelings you are having are also normal and natural for you. The problem is that we have all been socialized to believe that these feelings are abnormal and unnatural."


The work that Tammy and others are doing in guiding people through a grief recovery process if so very important. So many people need such a process. You may not be suffering from a recent loss in the form of death yourself but I bet you can think of someone right now who is going through that loss.

If we add the list of losses that cause grief suggested in the Grief Recovery Handbook, this would include:

  • Death of a pet
  • Moving
  • Starting a new school
  • Death of a former spouse
  • Marriage
  • Graduation
  • End of addictions
  • Major health changes
  • Retirement
  • Financial changes (positive or negative)
  • Holidays
  • Legal problems
  • Empty nest

Now, you can see how far reaching this advice can be. There may very well be someone in your circle who could use a recovery method. When you feel that you would like to do more to help, remember to suggest the Grief Recovery Method.

Lynn Whetham

About the Author: Lynn Whetham is a Certified Financial Planner and Managing Partner at Stepright Capital Planning Inc in St. George, Ontario. Lynn believes in community involvement and enjoys sharing others' inspiring stories through her podcast Stepright with Lynn. The podcast is dedicated to empowering socially conscious individuals to manage their financial resources for the benefit of themselves, their families, and the greater community.

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