Entrepreneur or stay at home mom, we all want Healthy Self-Worth
Self-Worth is Self-Love. It means being on your own team. It means giving yourself the same respect, and understanding you want for your loved ones.
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Sounds pretty good, doesn’t it?
Low self-worth can manifest in depression, the willingness to tolerate disparaging situations, and a sense of failure to reach your own potential.
Low self-worth is often the cause — not the effect — of hardships in your life, whether they are financial, relational, physical, or emotional.
So, how do we improve it?
It starts by changing how we Think.
Positive Self Talk
Let’s take a look at how people with High Self-Worth think.
I am worthy of love, no matter what I’ve done or haven’t done.
When a person has a high self-worth they take responsibility for their mistakes, without holding on to the guilt for making them. If they make a ‘mistake’, they say, “I did a bad thing” instead of “I am bad.” They say sorry to themselves and do what they can to make things right.
The self-worthy person does not become overly dependent on success. They are confident and takes pride in their achievements, but also show humility too.
- They don’t do things to get love; they do things for the love of them.
- This person welcomes both success and failure.
Thing do NOT define me.
The person who honours their worthiness knows that they can enjoy external things without attaching their identity to them. They appreciate what they have while they have it, and wholeheartedly strives to get what they truly want. But they also know that even without these “things,” they can still look in the mirror and say, “You are enough.”
I am allowed to feel whatever I’m feeling.
People with self-worthiness are not “always happy.” They feel all the same feelings that anyone else feels. The difference is that someone with a solid sense of self-worth creates space for their emotions without feeling guilty about them. They understand that their emotions are just tools that are helping them pay attention. They notice their emotions and allow them to be as they are. When this person no longer needs those emotions, they simply let go.
It’s not about what happens; it’s about how I respond to what happens.
People who have a high sense of self-worth haven’t had easier lives than people who don’t. They simply remember that only they are responsible for their feelings, thoughts, and actions. They do not stay stuck and become a victim of their thoughts or spend too much time feeling sorry for themselves
Rather than getting stuck in what’s “wrong” right now, there is a more powerful way to approach obstacles and the resulting negative feelings. We can choose to acknowledge these feelings, forgive ourselves for whatever we labeled as “wrong,” and move forward with the new information we have gathered because of these experiences.
I do what I love, and I love what I do.
What do you value most in life? What do you look forward to doing? What would you do if knew you couldn’t fail—or what would you still do even if you knew you could fail?
A self-worthy person puts their needs first. This doesn’t mean they are selfish — it simply means that they know it is each person’s responsibility to put their own needs first. They inherently know that they can only love and help others to the extent that they love and help themselves, so they make time to invest in the life they want.
The self-worthy person looks for the “win-win” situations. They are able to help others by helping themselves.
Every day, I find things to be grateful for.
Gratitude and being thankful is a daily practice for people with high self-worth. Appreciating the small and big gifts of life and expressing appreciation whenever and however they can is the key.
The story I tell about my life means everything.
The way you think influences the way you live.
So, ask yourself:
- What kind of life story are you telling yourself?
- What do you say you “always,” “never,” “should,” or “ought to” do?
- Are these expectations actually true? Where do they come from?
A person with high self-worth asks these questions. They may write them down in a journal or discuss them with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist. They enjoy the process of learning, and at any moment realize that they have the power to change their own story.
We believe what we tell ourselves
Lee Pryke, Intuitive Life Coach