Baby’s First Communication - Understanding the Cues

Baby’s First Communication - Understanding the Cues

Your baby’s first cry is the start of communication with you through body language. They cry to let you know they are hungry, sleepy, uncomfortable or anxious.


Margaret Wallis-Duffy, founder of Wallis For Wellness, is a Registered Massage Therapist and Internationally Certified Infant Massage Instructor.

The challenge for parents on their parenting journey is understanding their child’s unspoken language. Before a baby can communicate through verbal language, nature equips them with ability to communicate their needs and desires through body language. When you understand this new language, it can be much easier to respond to your child’s needs and improve your parenting skills.

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Understanding Baby Cues

This physical form of communication (body language) can be divided into three main categories:

Cues of Engagement - suggest baby is neurologically, physically and emotionally content with their environment at that point in time. Ie. Bright clear eyes, head in neutral position.

Cues of Disengagement - suggest baby is unhappy neurologically, physically or emotionally with their current environment for a myriad of reasons. Ie. Turning head with intention to one side or the other, general fussiness.

Cues of Over stimulation - Deliberate and extreme arching of the back. Hiccups.

For a detailed list of baby cues please refer to this article

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Body Language, Baby Cues

Baby massage

Effective tool to understand your baby’s body language.

A parent empowering baby massage program with your baby teaches you the baby’s cues they deliver in the form of body language.

Initially we may administer baby massage to bond with our baby or to help with a variety of conditions such as gas/colic, teething, sleep disturbances. As our child grows, the techniques you learn in this program can also help with growing pains, anxiety, body awareness and even aches and pains due to involvement in sports and recreation.

As a Registered Massage Therapist and Internationally Certified Baby Massage Instructor, Margaret has seen the concern parents have for their babies as they struggle to understand what their baby is trying to tell them. Are they hungry, tired, sad, have gas, are overstimulated or simply want to change their position?

This is the challenge that every new parent face as they try their best to meet their babies needs. Baby can help you start understanding your baby’s cues. Whether they are engagement cues when your baby is happy and ready to play or disengagement cues that say your baby is neurologically unhappy and they need to be comforted in some way.

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Baby Massage

Although every baby is unique, they do share body language cues. Body language is a universal language that enables babies to communicate their needs before they can speak. You should begin a massage with your baby when they are in a quiet alert state. Being aware of your baby’s cues will not only help you to provide a successful massage but it will also enhance your parenting skills as you understand what your baby is trying to tell you and respond to their needs according.

If you are interested in taking a baby massage program, contact Margaret at Wallis For Wellness and start to communicate your love through touch and have a positive impact on the health and wellbeing of your baby! 905-840-3486

Here is a video explaining Baby Massage:

Baby Massage