Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Putting Yourself First

Why You Shouldn’t Feel Guilty About Putting Yourself First
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Do we spend enough time looking after are own mental health

In our busy lives we always still make sure that others around us have the things they need and go to the places they need. We rarely will find time for ourselves and when we do, we feel guilty. We worry about the washing that needs doing, the ironing that needs putting away and the other chores that need completing. But, you shouldn’t feel guilty for putting yourself first. While it is nice to be kind and considerate of others, we need to find a balance.

Help Yourself Before Others

Your body is the most important item to you, as this is what you will carry with you through life. You should care for your body as much as if it is the body of someone you love. If you live your life to please others then it will have a significant effect on your mental health. Putting yourself first is not selfish and you should not feel guilty as it is necessary because we matter too, as well as the people around us.

Self-care Isn’t Selfish

Some of us think that by spending time on ourselves we are selfish. That we are undeserving, indulgent or extravagant but it is none of these things. It is necessary. We can not look after others if we do not look after ourselves. If we are to look after the ones we love, we must first think about ourselves and look after ourselves. By doing this we will be able to be a better partner, parent and person.

Start Living

Taking time for yourself and investing in your self-care isn’t selfish. Practising self-care helps you to stop just existing and start living. Doing things that make you feel happy, lift you, and make you smile is vital for your mental health. Sometimes we are on auto-pilot so much that we go through life and don’t notice what is going on around us. Self-care will help us start living and noticing the little things that life brings.

Is It Difficult

If you find yourself feeling guilty about putting yourself first, then perhaps you need to focus on your own Mental Health. We have qualified therapist at our Oxford cognitive therapy centre who will be able to give yo help and advice.

What is CBT

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (known as CBT), is a talking therapy designed to help people manage their problems by changing the way they think and behave. It aims to encourage us to become more aware of negative thoughts and of the behavioural patterns which reinforce our unhelpful thinking.

It’s most commonly used to treat anxiety and depression, but can help a broad range of both mental and physical health problems.