No More Resolutions
How many resolutions actually make it past the first month of the year. Understanding WHY will help you make sustainable decisions.
by Lee Pryke, Entrepreneur and Intuitive Life Coach
What is a New Years Resolution?
A New Year's resolution is a tradition, most common in the Western Hemisphere but also found in the Eastern Hemisphere, in which a person resolves to change an undesired trait or behavior.
How New Year's resolutions started
Babylonians made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts. The Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus, for whom the month of January is named.
Interestingly 75% of resolutions will be continued through the entire first week of January, but only 46% make it past six months.
Why people make New Year's resolutions
A New Year's resolution is a decision to do or not do something in order to accomplish a personal goal or break a habit. It comes at a time when people look back at the past year and make an effort to improve themselves as the new year begins. Adults often make New Year's resolutions to lose weight or exercise.
More and more often than not it will be on the resolution list for next year!
Resolutions Should Not's
No More Resolutions
I thought I would make a list of some of the things that SHOULD NOT be on your resolution list if you want to be successful at making them really happen.
Spend more time with family
This is certainly a noble resolution for anyone, but there will likely be circumstances and 'things' that get in the way of your ability to make it happen. Life is moving fast for most and filled with stuff that shows up daily. Having 'more time' to spend with family comes down to logistics and priorities, which are changing constantly as the time available in our schedule changes, so making promises to spend more time with family is not really fair to yourself or your loved ones
Fall in love or find a relationship
Having love in your life is always a beautiful intention, however, allowing the natural process to unfold is even more beautiful when the intentions are pure. To have a healthy relationship with another, one must first have a healthy relationship with self, first and foremost. When we are looking for something, it infers that we've lost something, but a relationship cannot be lost when it is not yet discovered.
WHY NOT make a resolution to be aware of your strengths and values, and practice self love.
Make a plan to meet more people within a certain time frame.
When you're happy with yourself, you often stop seeking out that soulmate and, when you do that, often the right person arrives in your life anyway.
Discovering a new you can be a great idea, unless you don't have a grounded, concrete reason for doing it. Decide to develop your own personal purpose and place a time frame around that. Create a positive statement that defines who you are, the value you bring to others, and the impact you intend to make for your family, community, or even the world. This way, you are re-inventing yourself with an authentic intention and actual implementation.
Saying that you're going to stop procrastinating may seem like a great resolution and I have said this consistently every year! But where's the game plan to make this actually happen? Instead of committing to end procrastination, put the commitment to action by building accountability into your life through support. You can join a support group, a mastermind for your business, a financial class, an art or cooking class. Connecting with people who will support your goals can help you achieve whatever you set your mind to, without the temptation to put it off.
Manage stress better
Here's another seemingly simple resolution with no real "how to" behind it.
This should not be a resolution but instead an everyday routine that starts by kicking the 'Stinkin Thinkin' out of your life. Just because you've been friends for years does not mean you have to choose to spend your limited time with complainers or people who are constantly negative. By phasing out time you spend with people who create stress, you will be better able to manage the natural stresses of life.
Rather than make resolutions your may never keep, and adding more stress to your life, simply decide to make small changes, one day at a time towards your goals. Make a list of how you see your year looking, start a journal, make a vision board and most importantly - check in with yourself every day. Be grateful for small things and make a choice to be a little happier everyday.....
No More Resolutions
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